Borderline Personality Disorder: Through the Lens of Family
Borderline Personality Disorder: Through the Lens of Family Members Perry D. Hoffman, Ph.D., Elizabeth McCrave and Joy Sprague National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder THE IMPORTANCE OF SKILLS FOR FAMILIES
Family Connections Developed by Alan Fruzzetti, Ph.D., and Perry Hoffman, Ph.D. from the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEABPD) 12 week structured course Led by professionals or family members Integrates DBT principles of acceptance and
mindfulness www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com How do we do this? Education - Skills - Support The class was a lifeline for us when we were very, very low and not completely understanding our daughter and her issues[our life together today] would have not been possible without the
skills and understanding that we acquired ... The class lifted the curtain of ignorance about this illness and exposed it to the light. Getting started Skills Rights of Relatives: healthy selfishness, Learn to say no accept that we cannot solve our relative's problems,
accept that we will lose our cool at times) Basic Assumptions to be Effective: interpret things in the most benign way possible, no one or absolute truth, everyone is doing the best they can in this moment AND everyone needs to try harder
Developing interest & curiosity Sensitivity, reactivity, return to baseline Awareness of validating vs invalidating family/social environment Awareness of our relative's need for support AND our need for balancing our relative's and our needs (oxygen mask) Emotion mindfulness: Observe, Describe,
Participate Non-Judgmentally, One-Mindfully and Effectively Relationship Mindfulness Observing and describing another Letting go of judgments Stay with facts Benign interpretations
Recognize transactional nature of the relationship Sure, we still have our moments of conflict, but we can usually come to a place of understanding, thanks to our new skills... Radical Acceptance What is the reality? Four ways to deal with any problem
Acceptance reduces suffering Acceptance gives you more control, not less Practice acceptance every day Start small Change/Tolerance starts with you Limit Setting Skills Boundaries can be a loaded term/ abandonment
issues can be raised. In this class we Observe our limits. I wish I could help you but this is all I can do. Fine line between enabling and being supportive. We will find the balance to avoid burning out in the long run. Validation Skills
Really understand the other person Communicate that you understand A. and I had a big breakthrough this morning (). A. dysregulated and I was of course the target. I managed to stay calm, listen to her and validate the emotion I thought she was feeling. IT WORKED!!!! We have a long way to go but this was huge. Thanks for all you do.
Validation What to validate? Feelings or emotions Legitimacy in desires Opinions or thoughts Values / Priorities Task difficultly Effort made towards goals
Things that enhance relationships Only validate the valid things. There are always valid parts. Validation doesn't mean you agree. The Big Picture for Relatives
Take care of ourselves first Observe and stick to our limits. Our relative needs to know we are safe and predictable. Change starts with us Keep in mind the importance of the relationship. A good goal is to act effectively. Being effective presents more opportunities to engage. Not escalating is usually more effective than being right.
Be aware of longer term goals Try to see both sides. You dont have to be wrong for me to be right. Final Parent Words Thank you SO very much for the incredible learning experience of this Family Connections class. You have been so informative, warm, supportive and Validating, that this exceeded all of my expectations. There just is no substitute for the sharing, and
networking, and heart to heart with other families who are dealing with BPD loved ones. () I believe that through my personal research, and focus on DBT learning skills, it has made me a more effective parent. Together we are learning to trust. I do believe that the more I naturally assume the DBT communication strategies and principles, the better things will get. I would like to continue to pursue this, and help other families who might not have some of the resources and
experience that I have. We are all on a journey, schooled, skilled, or not. For More Information Family Connections www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com
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